It's another week of "Fifty Shades of Grey" for Bloggy Book Club. It's been a great four weeks of interesting questions and lots of debate. There really isn't a more talked about book right now than this and I had a great time jumping back into the world of book discussions. There were three questions this week and I debated answering all three but I did anyway.
I don't know how to answer that. If Ana had been more experienced the book would have probably taken a totally different direction. If Ana had "gotten around" or at least kissed more I don't know if she would have appealed to Christian in the same way. Their relationship could have become one of aggressive personalties butting heads instead of what it was. I think Christian was largely drawn to Ana's innocence (although he was surprised she was a virgin) and mistook her awkwardness for submission. The books take the storyline of innocent girl/bad boy to a whole new level and yeah, if Ana had been experienced it wouldn't appeal to people the way it does.
2. What was your first thought when Christian wouldn't let Ana touch him?
My first thought was that it was a way for Christian to control the intimacy of the situation. He put a lot of importance on Ana keeping her hands to herself. In the beginning you think it's more of a control thing; "I can touch you but you can't touch me" and to set the tone of the Dom/sub relationship, at least that's what I thought. It also reminded me a little of "Pretty Woman" and the no-kissing rule of Vivian's so things didn't too personal.
It wasn't until later in the book that Christian's true reasoning came to light. I don't want to go into the details of Christian's childhood too much but it wasn't a good one. This quote from the book pretty much sums it up...
“Why don't you like to be touched" Ana whispered, staring up into soft grey eyes.
"Because I'm fifty shades of fucked-up, Anastasia.”
3. Why do you think Christian Grey has made BDSM such a massive part of his life? Do you feel that this is a natural sexual desire?
I debated whether I wanted to answer this and my can't-leave-anything-unfinished personality made me. I am going to keep it brief though. I think Christian made BDSM such a large part of his life for the control it gives him and the release he finds. In a Dom/sub relationship the participants have their Limits list of what is acceptable and what's not and here's where Christian can control the not wanting to be touched issues as well as keep the women at a distance and never form too much of an attachment; it's just another business negotiation. He also has it in his head that this is how he is an all he'll ever be comfortable with.
Whether it's natural or not...yeah I'm going to say to each his own. As long as both partners are consenting adults (which Christian wasn't in the beginning of his relationship with Elena) then it's your business. And that's all I've got to say about that.