Tuesday, June 26, 2012

{ bloggy book club week 2 - fifty shades of grey }



Another week and more discussion of "Fifty Shades of Grey."  I told my husband that I was reading this book (again) for Bloggy Book Club and he was surprised I'd even read it, but not as surprised as I was that he'd heard of it too.  Apparently his assistant's wife was reading it recently and they were both amazed at the "graphic language."  Uh, yeah, you'd be surprised at the "graphic language" in books lately.  Go back to watching Tosh.O for your "graphic language" sweetie.


On to the questions...

"Ana seems to be weak but yet is argumentative with Christian. Do you feel as if the author was to draw here a backbone and make her appear to be stronger in Christians eyes? Do you feel that by her doing so Ana's innocence was lost a bit?"

I'm all over the place with this question.  I don't think she was weak but I don't think she was argumentative either.  When Ana "argued" with Christian I think it was more of a defense mechanism because she felt intimidated and awkward.  The backbone I was not so sure about at that time.  Ana may have voiced her opinions when she and Christian were in "negotiations" but I think it was more common sense and being scared to do something than standing up for herself.  She may not have been with a man before but she knew in a way what she wanted and what she was capable of.  

I think the back and forth between good girl and bad girl was a little much though.  It wasn't Christian's moods that gave me whiplash, it was Ana's.  I think her inexperience played a huge part but if I was confused, imagine how Christian felt.  

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"What are your feeling about Christian Grey's ever changing personalities?"

I think Christian was absolutely more interesting that Ana.  To most he is probably a pretty straight forward guy who is somewhat arrogant and in control.  He is a CEO of a major corporation and you don't get there by being a nice guy honestly.  At the beginning of the book we barely scratch the surface of Christian's "fifty shades of fucked up" and the reasons behind it.  His backstory and childhood until he comes to the Grey's is nothing new but the twist that sends him into the world of BDSM was surprising.  I think he used his fifty shades at times to try and keep Ana at arms length and pretend that their relationship was no different than that of any other he had with his submissives.  But then again we could never forget his fifty shades because Ana repeated it on almost every chance she got.  

I said earlier that it was Ana's mood changes that gave me more whiplash than Christian's personalities because he was used to wielding the power in the relationship and that was not possible this time.  Ana's inexperience and indecision kept him off guard and he wasn't really the one in control of the relationship no matter what each of them thought.  




Would you ever marry a guy like Christian? 

15 comments:

  1. I totally agree with you on everything that you have said here! I truly disliked Ana as a character but the psychology behind Christian with his childhood was what intrigued me! I think Ana was the one confusing herself rather than Christian doing it!

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    1. At the beginning of the book she kind of drove me crazy. She needed to be honest in person and not just over the email.

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  3. I had more of a connection with Ana than you did I think..there were times I was reading when I caught myself biting my lip and letting go because Christian told her "you know what it does to me" hahaha. Maybe it's just me..

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    1. It was hard to like her in the beginning because I thought her not being able to make up her mind wasn't helping Christian but I really like the person she became in the next books. Nope, not you :)

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  4. I agree with both of your answers and said basically the same things in my post for this week. I think Christian was a much better character than Ana. I find Christian much more interesting than Ana or their love story. Would I marry a guy like Christian? Christian as he is now(book one) no. I don't want a fixer-upper. Christian is so damaged psychologically and emotionally. I don't think Ana would be in this relationship if Christian wasn't rich and good looking. Just my opinion!
    This is my first time visiting your blog from bloggy book club. You've got a great blog! :)

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    1. Thank you! I agree with you too. I may have put up with it at Ana's age but not now, uh no thanks :)

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  5. I have a real problem with the fact they had to explain away Christian's 'tendancies' with a neglectful back-ground. The side of his personality that showed pain and vulnerability is somewhat lost by all of the sex stuff. It's almost like I would prefer him to NOT have the whole dominance vibe going for him so that we could understand a bit more and identify with someone who has been emotionally scarred or hurt. It's like his backstory is a justification for her more explicit writing. She'd have never have been able to publish this sort of writing if the character was normal 'Dave' from down the street who just got off on the same things. It bugs me there is an excuse. Surely, some people just enjoy different types of relationship?

    Am I even still on topic?

    Thanks for linking up!

    Rosie xx

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    1. I know what you mean. It "explained" why he was that way but at the same time feed the stereotype, I guess. I never thought of the dominance vibe that way and I can see that now. I love your opinions! This really is the best book club ever.

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  7. so amazing to me that so many women are loving the main character who hates women and wants to punish them b/c his mom was abused and let others abuse him. can't understand the mania with a society that glorifies teenagers killing each other while the world watches and cheers on public tvs in the Hunger Games...I just don't get it.

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  8. I haven't read this book yet, but I'm getting more and more interested. I think at this point it's pretty much just to see what all the 'hubbub' is about.

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  9. That 's why I read The Hunger Games, LOL. It's a pretty good books but there are parts that could have been better.

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